Expert Sex Therapy in Boulder

Sex therapy combines the principles of couples counseling with a focus on enhancing emotional connection and addressing intimacy issues. It provides a supportive, trauma-informed environment for individuals and couples to navigate challenges related to desire discrepancy, connection, communication, and pleasure. In my practice, sex therapy emphasizes healing shame, deepening understanding, and restoring trust in your body and your relationship rather than focusing solely on performance or technique.

Whether you’re feeling stuck, shut down, overwhelmed, or disconnected, sex therapy offers a safe and nonjudgmental space to help you reconnect with yourself and your partner.

Sex therapy can assist individuals and couples in addressing various challenges, including:  

• Desire discrepancy or feeling out of sync sexually  

• Communication blocks around intimacy issues or expressing needs  

• Shame surrounding sexuality or emotional expression  

• Life transitions such as postpartum, menopause, or new relationships  

• Emotional connection challenges during sex  

• Healing from betrayal or broken trust  

• Unprocessed relational or somatic trauma  

• Navigating open relationships or polyamory  

• Disconnection due to stress, anxiety, or identity suppression  

• Reclaiming intimacy and connection after painful or confusing sexual experiences

Many couples find it challenging to talk openly about sex, often due to intimacy issues, shame, fear of rejection, and long-standing emotional wounds that hinder emotional connection. In couples counseling, I help you identify patterns that interfere with closeness, practice new ways to express needs and boundaries, and create space for emotionally safe, embodied intimacy. 

Through our work, you’ll begin to explore what nourishes you sexually and relationally, focusing on your lived experience rather than cultural scripts. Couples are often surprised by how profoundly sex therapy can address desire discrepancies and transform their connection, even outside the bedroom.

Our first session in couples counseling focuses on understanding your story — what’s felt painful, what’s missing, and what you long for. I’ll get to know you both (or just you, if you’re coming individually), explore your relationship dynamics, and assess how attachment, nervous system regulation, and internalized messages around sex are showing up in your intimate life, particularly in relation to desire discrepancy and intimacy issues.

From there, sessions may include:

• Psychoeducation about desire, arousal, and emotional connection

• Communication and conflict repair tools to enhance intimacy

• Exploration of trauma-informed somatic work

• Mindful practices to reconnect to your body and pleasure

• Support for unpacking shame and building emotional safety, with an emphasis on sex therapy.

I bring a depth-oriented, relational, and embodied lens to sex therapy. Drawing from attachment theory, nervous system science, and depth psychology, I work at the intersection of mind, body, and relationship to address intimacy issues that may arise. My goal is to help you feel seen, safe, and whole — both in your connection to yourself and with your partner(s), especially when navigating desire discrepancy. I offer couples counseling that affirms and welcomes all relationship structures, identities, and orientations, focusing on fostering a deep emotional connection.